Why I Stopped Watching Porn To Have Better Sex

I’m not gonna say what you think I’m gonna say…

I didn’t stop watching porn because I thought it was morally wrong, degrading to women, or promoted the sale of sex.

I stopped watching porn for an entirely selfish reason; so I could have better (and consequently more) sex. I haven’t even looked at a naked woman unless we were face to face (or in some other position) ever since. 

I realized that what I watch is what I think about, fantasize about, and want. If I spend 20min every day watching John Mayer play guitar then I’m gonna dream about John Mayer playing guitar, about me playing guitar, and about how I can play guitar like John Mayer.

So why will sex be better if you stop watching porn?

The most obvious reason is that if you’re not used to seeing sex or naked girls then when you finally get one in front of you it will be a much more exciting experience. Do you remember how awesome it was the first time you saw a topless picture of a hot girl? I bet currently a lone picture of a hot topless girl wouldn’t even phase you much if you watch porn on a regular basis.

Watching porn makes you want to be a porn star in bed. But that will make you worse at learning what actually pleases a girl sexually, and what will make her want to come back as a repeat customer. Watch the YouTube video entitled “The 15min Orgasm”. There’s not even any sexual penetration involved, and yet girls love it, and it’s one of the most erotic things I’ve ever done. It would also make for the world’s most boring porn video.

Porn is not about sexual pleasure between two people only about visual sensory stimulation. Therefore watching porn will make you a worse lover because it encourages you to overlook many of the best aspects of sexual activity such as erogenous zones like the back of the neck, the nipples, inner thighs, and ears. Massages, biting, and extreme amounts of “build up” actually increase the sensations of an orgasm for both you and your partner yet they’re almost completely overlooked in porn. And I’m not even talking about within a serious relationship. Even with a one night stand you can have twice as much fun if you focus on learning to be a great lover. You can’t learn how to be a great lover if visual sexual sensory overload is what you train your mind to need in order to be sexually satisfied. It’s like training for the Navy Seasl by reading Nicholas Sparks’ novels.

If you’re watching porn to “get ideas” just buy a book of sexual positions or read a book on sexual pleasure. You’ll get way more ideas. …When I watched porn I thought that sex was mostly a male and female socket sorta game. Now I’ve learned about all the other erogenous zones on the body that when activated will make the physical feelings of sex at least ten times better. The hands are the most overlooked sexual part of the body. Learn to use your hands well (never demonstrated in porn), and girls will beg you for sex. 

So how will stopping watching porn help you have MORE sex?

Girls can sense things, and they can sense when you “just want sex” like deers can sense a hunter in a forest. So by watching porn and having that on your mind you’re totally giving off the wrong vibe, and actually getting laid LESS because of it. I’ve had way more sex since I stopped watching porn. Watching porn made me think of girls as potential porn stars in my life …instead of what they really are which is a lot of cool people that have a lot to offer me in terms of friendship, romance (which can also sometimes mean sex), and intelligence. When girls realize you view them as such they’ll ironically be a lot more interested in sleeping with you as well. Weird. 

There are a hundred moral reasons that could be debated as to why you shouldn’t watch porn, but forget about that. Stop watching porn to have better sex and more sex with real girls, and focus on finding one that you really like. As cliche as it might sound; sex with someone you love and have a genuine connection with is always the best.

Speaking of which if you haven’t seen boobies in a while and your girlfriend brings her's out to play it’s pretty freak’n awesome! Versus if you watch giant fake ones bounce around your computer screen every night the real thing just doesn’t have that same “yummy, I didn’t realize I was this hungry!” factor. My decision to stop watching porn was the best thing I ever did for my sex life. Here’s to more great times for you :)