Why I Stopped Watching Porn To Have Better Sex

I’m not gonna say what you think I’m gonna say…

I didn’t stop watching porn because I thought it was morally wrong, degrading to women, or promoted the sale of sex.

I stopped watching porn for an entirely selfish reason; so I could have better (and consequently more) sex. I haven’t even looked at a naked woman unless we were face to face (or in some other position) ever since. 

I realized that what I watch is what I think about, fantasize about, and want. If I spend 20min every day watching John Mayer play guitar then I’m gonna dream about John Mayer playing guitar, about me playing guitar, and about how I can play guitar like John Mayer.

So why will sex be better if you stop watching porn?

The most obvious reason is that if you’re not used to seeing sex or naked girls then when you finally get one in front of you it will be a much more exciting experience. Do you remember how awesome it was the first time you saw a topless picture of a hot girl? I bet currently a lone picture of a hot topless girl wouldn’t even phase you much if you watch porn on a regular basis.

Watching porn makes you want to be a porn star in bed. But that will make you worse at learning what actually pleases a girl sexually, and what will make her want to come back as a repeat customer. Watch the YouTube video entitled “The 15min Orgasm”. There’s not even any sexual penetration involved, and yet girls love it, and it’s one of the most erotic things I’ve ever done. It would also make for the world’s most boring porn video.

Porn is not about sexual pleasure between two people only about visual sensory stimulation. Therefore watching porn will make you a worse lover because it encourages you to overlook many of the best aspects of sexual activity such as erogenous zones like the back of the neck, the nipples, inner thighs, and ears. Massages, biting, and extreme amounts of “build up” actually increase the sensations of an orgasm for both you and your partner yet they’re almost completely overlooked in porn. And I’m not even talking about within a serious relationship. Even with a one night stand you can have twice as much fun if you focus on learning to be a great lover. You can’t learn how to be a great lover if visual sexual sensory overload is what you train your mind to need in order to be sexually satisfied. It’s like training for the Navy Seasl by reading Nicholas Sparks’ novels.

If you’re watching porn to “get ideas” just buy a book of sexual positions or read a book on sexual pleasure. You’ll get way more ideas. …When I watched porn I thought that sex was mostly a male and female socket sorta game. Now I’ve learned about all the other erogenous zones on the body that when activated will make the physical feelings of sex at least ten times better. The hands are the most overlooked sexual part of the body. Learn to use your hands well (never demonstrated in porn), and girls will beg you for sex. 

So how will stopping watching porn help you have MORE sex?

Girls can sense things, and they can sense when you “just want sex” like deers can sense a hunter in a forest. So by watching porn and having that on your mind you’re totally giving off the wrong vibe, and actually getting laid LESS because of it. I’ve had way more sex since I stopped watching porn. Watching porn made me think of girls as potential porn stars in my life …instead of what they really are which is a lot of cool people that have a lot to offer me in terms of friendship, romance (which can also sometimes mean sex), and intelligence. When girls realize you view them as such they’ll ironically be a lot more interested in sleeping with you as well. Weird. 

There are a hundred moral reasons that could be debated as to why you shouldn’t watch porn, but forget about that. Stop watching porn to have better sex and more sex with real girls, and focus on finding one that you really like. As cliche as it might sound; sex with someone you love and have a genuine connection with is always the best.

Speaking of which if you haven’t seen boobies in a while and your girlfriend brings her's out to play it’s pretty freak’n awesome! Versus if you watch giant fake ones bounce around your computer screen every night the real thing just doesn’t have that same “yummy, I didn’t realize I was this hungry!” factor. My decision to stop watching porn was the best thing I ever did for my sex life. Here’s to more great times for you :)

4 Tips To Get Lots Of Tinder Dates With Hot Girls

I posted a video with some Tinder dating tips after going on 14 awesome dates in 10 days using Tinder.

A YouTuber commented on my video saying - “Wanna get lots of dates on Tinder, look like this guy. Wanna get no dates on Tinder, look like me!” …that comment made me laugh. It’s half true.

The number one rule of meeting good looking girls on Tinder is that you must be Attractive. The good news though is that virtually every guy can be attractive. So let’s look at what you can do to make yourself attractive on Tinder and in life. Why? …Because the more attractive a person you are, the better the options in your potential dating pool will be. Here are four ways to immediately make yourself more attractive.

#1 - Go to the gym and build a little muscle. You’ll feel better and more confident because exercise releases endorphins in your brain that make you feel good. And you’ll look good. Even guys that don’t have “beautiful” face will still look fairly attractive once they have a nice body. Add a charming personality to that body, and you’ll have more dates with cute girls than you even have time for.

#2 dress well. Girls appreciate clothes more than guys appreciate clothes. So girls will appreciate a guy that dresses himself well. I personally don’t keep up with fashion so I have my brother Mark choose most of my clothes. You don’t need many clothes. Two pairs of shoes, two pairs of pants, four shirts and a nice jacket will pretty much do the trick. Buy clothes that are modern, trendy, classic, and fit well. If you’re like me and not sure what to buy then I’ve asked my brother Mark who buys clothes for showrooms in NYC if he’d be willing to personal shop for you guys, and for $150 fee he’ll shop for three new outfits for you from the top designers in NYC His email is madimuzio@gmail.com …it’s worth the money. Remember it’s not about quantity. With even just two great classic outfits you can be set for years.

#3 - Great pictures. Even if you aren’t the best looking guy your pictures are a chance to show a little of who you are, and why you’re interesting. Your first pic should be a great & clear shot of your face. One pic should be a little bit funny or cute. One pic should show you doing something fun or adventurous outdoors. You get the idea. Spend some time on taking/picking great pics if you're going to spend time on Tinder. Otherwise you're just wasting time. Your first impression IS your pictures.

Here were three of my pics...

First should be a great & clear picture of your face. The green catches the eye when swiping.

Something funny to show personality or that you have a good body (but only in a casual way).

Something to show you like spending time outdoors or are adventurous.

#4 - Learn to be a good conversationalist. I’ve included links to a few great articles about what makes people feel like they’re having a great conversation. One of the most important is to ask great and specific questions. An example of a bad question is “What are you looking for on Tinder?”. It’s too general, and most people aren’t just looking for one thing. No matter what people answer they’ll feel as if that answer is being judged. A good question would be… “If you could have dinner with anyone living or dead who would it be?” …every girl I’ve asked that question has answered it. Fyi: my answer is Jesus.

In closing. What I’ve learned is that like attracts like. If you want to date a Chinese girl start learning Chinese. If you want to date an emotionally secure, attractive, and successful girl your chances of that happening go up significantly if you’re an emotionally secure, attractive, and successful guy. If you’re not sure how to become one find people that you admire and hang out with them as much as possible. It’s said you are the average of the three people you spend the most time around.

Jīa yóu! (Chinese for “More power to you!”)